The preferences you indicate in your private request form are one of the most important pieces of information the SwapMePlease team uses when reviewing submissions. How you approach the preferences section — what you include, how clearly you communicate it, and how honestly it reflects what you are genuinely seeking — directly shapes the quality of any introduction that may result. This guide helps you think through your preferences clearly before you submit.
The Available Preference Categories
SwapMePlease offers five preference categories: Single Male, Single Female, Couple or Swap Preference, Group Social Preference, and Specific Preference Request. Each category reflects a different type of adult social introduction. Select the category that most accurately reflects your genuine interest. If none of the standard categories fits well, the Specific Preference Request option gives you space to describe your preference more precisely within the form.
Honesty Leads to Better Outcomes
The team's ability to identify a suitable introduction depends entirely on the accuracy of your stated preferences. Selecting a preference category that does not reflect your genuine interests — in order to cast a wider net or to appear more flexible than you actually are — results in introductions that are poorly matched and ultimately unsatisfying for everyone involved. Honest, specific communication of your preferences gives your submission the best possible foundation for review.
Flexibility Without Vagueness
Being honest about your preferences does not mean being inflexible. If you have a genuine range of what you are comfortable with, it is entirely appropriate to indicate that. What the team needs is clarity — a clear indication of what you are genuinely open to, rather than vague or noncommittal language designed to avoid excluding any possibilities. Vague preferences make matching harder, not easier.
All Preferences Must Be Legal and Consensual
All preferences submitted through the platform must be legal in the applicable jurisdiction and must involve only consenting adults aged 18 and above. Requests that imply illegal activity, non-consensual scenarios, or the involvement of minors will be immediately rejected. This is a hard requirement — not a guideline — and applies to every submission regardless of package tier or prior submission history.
Adjusting Preferences Over Time
Your preferences may evolve, and you are free to submit a new request in the future with updated information. Each submission is reviewed independently. If your first submission does not result in an introduction, taking time to reflect on whether your stated preferences were as clear and accurate as they could have been is a useful step before resubmitting.
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